“Life is unpredictable and so is love. Sometimes we fall in
it, sometimes we swim with it, sometimes we drown in it, sometimes we play with
it... Whatever we do, it always goes on.. It has neither stopped for anyone nor
will it ever stop. It’s we ourselves who decide to mark a full stop to love and
we never do realize when we begin to write a new sentence - experiencing
everything all over again...”
To some, it may seem like a fiction; for some, it would come
across as a next Rajshree Production script.. But for me, it’s a beautiful
reality witnessing the love that proves that relationships do stand tall and
strong. It’s a live example of marriage not being just a mere ritual but it being
the best institution that exists amidst us. This story is symbolic of an
emotion we call ‘Love’ and we sometimes believe that love can only hurt but
here’s a couple who fails to disagree with this saying and confirms that ‘It’s
not love that can ever hurt, it’s your way of dealing with the relationship
(the bond) that can lead to pain’. It’s a dedication to the couple I truly
admire and cherish their togetherness, nodding my head in front of God in
agreement that ‘Love Exists’.
A tall, fair and handsome man meets a not-so-tall beautiful
girl and they fall in love with each other at first sight! ...... Wait..... That’s
not what happened... That’s a usual, routine and dreary plot we all are bored
of hearing... So here’s how it all began!
A tall, fair and
handsome man gets acquainted with a not-so-tall beautiful girl and they fall in
love with each other without even meeting or leaving any trace of ‘love at
first sight’. Being from the same
(small) town and aware of each other’s existence, they both went on with their
separate lives for more than two decades. While he went on to study engineering
in his own world, she set her steps in the field of Psychology in her separate
world. Fate let them remain in their
respective worlds and made them fall in and out of love, but never with each
other until the cupid by the name ‘Facebook’ arrived and connected these two
familiarly different worlds.
While they did have many mutual friends, they still weren’t
on each other’s list until another cupid entered their life. A close friend of
our Hero could not stop praising and talking about this new girl he had know
and befriended on Facebook. Our Dude patiently listened each time his friend
did the praising and after getting annoyed for several days, he decided to test
the waters himself and find out who the hell is this girl who has made his
brains suffer the non-stop admiration from his best friend. Being a stalker was
never a part of his personality and he remained least interested while
searching for her name in his friend’s list. And then there was a moment... A
moment when he saw her name appear in the search result... A moment when he
clicked on the name and had her profile page opened on his computer screen... A
moment when he freezed looking at her image and found himself smiling to glory
in his own world. He couldn’t make sense of what exactly was happening but all
he felt then was to just continue looking at this image that brought a smile to
his face without even saying a word! The cupid (in heavens) knew that our dude
was smitten and its job as the messenger of love was executed just perfect. Till
that day, he never added any girl without knowing her in person and that day
proved an exception while he hit the ‘add friend’ option.
The girl however was totally unaware of what was happening
to the guy and while seeing a new request with 30+ mutual friends and knowing
that they have a close common friend, she clicked the mouse and accepted the
request. Our man couldn’t resist the temptation after seeing the request being
accepted and within 24 hours, he sent her a message on FB and that was the
first of many messages that were exchanged that very night. Flirting had never
been so much fun for either of them and they soon reached a stage where they
would keep staring at the mobile screen looking for that symbol of ‘new message
received’.. From FB to Yahoo messenger to Wtsapp, they covered their distance
and after three months of exchanging messages, they heard each other’s voice
for the first time.
In these three months, they realized how much they loved
each other’s company. The days they talked for long went bright and happy &
the days when they weren’t able to talk went dull and lifeless. It did not take
them long to know that they had finally fallen in love with each other... It’s
said, ‘fate’ hates it when everything goes smoothly and that’s when it demands
for a jerk to shake things apart.
They wished to take this love to another level and belong to
each other for a lifetime but inter-religion marriages never come easy in our
society. While the news was shared with
their respective families, it was a clear ‘NO’ response that came in the
forefront. The decision was neither easy nor effortless for the two. While a
lot many people would give in to this situation, they kept their fight on.
While the guy accidentally (planned accident ;-)) bumped into girl’s parents and
started talking to them, the girl called his home and accidentally (again the
planned accident ;-)) began talking to his mother who picked up the phone. They
both ensured that they kept creating these positive accidents until they feel
that both the families are now comfortable and has developed a small liking
towards each other. It took them six months and dozens of accidents to convince
their families that the choice both of them are going to make in life is not
the wrong one. And this was possible only because they both themselves believed
in their hearts that the choice they have made is the right one (without a
tinge of doubt)!
They signed a life-time bond (marriage contract) on the 10th
of June, 2011. That day, he swore to protect her happiness and fulfill all her
wishes. She swore to sustain the smile on not just his face but also on every
single member of her new home. He swore to hold her hand in not just happiness
but especially in the times when life takes a shaky turn. She swore to
evaporate every tension and agony that he ever comes across. Together they
swore to respect this bond and cherish their relationship with love and care.
They confirmed this promise looking into each other’s eyes and whispering those
words which had finally united them for a life-time – ‘I love you’.
While their
responsibilities and roles changed after marriage, what remained unchanged was
the love they had for each other; the madness they created every single day
that livens their souls; the respect they held, not just for each other but
even for their extended families; the gratitude they felt to have each other
knotted for eternity. And most importantly, they kept the child within them
alive every minute of every single day. When they are together, people around
them still feel they are a dating couple unless they notice the rings and the Mangalsutra which symbolizes their
eternal bond. And this has been possible because they continued to be who they
were even before meeting each other. Their circumstances changed but they
continued to remain the same person they once were!
For me, their marriage is a living example of the strength
two people can bring to a relationship. They are responsible for keeping the
dying institution of marriage positive and alive. And when I see them or think
of them, my heart and mind does nothing but pray for their happiness and
togetherness!
Prayers, wishes and special blessings to all those who
continue to unite in love and set an example in this world that believes ‘Love
is painful and it causes only hurt’. They are the most happily married couple I have seen, celebrating Valentines Day (the day of love) every single day of their life.
Ram Sanjay Jaiswal and Shama Ram Jaiswal I love you two :-) :-) :-)
