Pehla Dusra Teesra Saccha Pyaar!

It’s interesting to see how love has so many facets! 
When we are children, our love is mostly limited to parents, school friends, school girl friends, best buddies. When we enter high school, we experience love in the form of crushes and BFFs. It is this phase of life where we recognize that one person without whom we claim we cannot live! Thoughts like “I am going to marry this person” ("Agar koi teri bhabhi banegi bhai toh bas yehi banegi!"), “I will die if I don't get him/her” etc occupy our brains more than algebra geometry ever did! 

It is mostly during our late teens when the heartbreak's hit us hard (the word depressed, depression etc is often used during this time!) We shed bucket full of tears if we discover that the one we truly love loves someone else. (ok I agree, girls are more capable of doing this). This bucket begins to overflow when we find out that our gf/bf cheated over us or left us stranded and helpless. We vow right then not to fall in love ever again (some once-upon-a-time-doleful-lovers even vow to not get married ever to another person!)

As time goes by and we enter adulthood, things begin to change on the romance front. Somehow someone manages to break the self-made ‘No Entry’ zone and we, once again, find ourselves being drown in love. So, to justify that this is true love, we label the old one as a ‘Crush’. This phase sometimes has more than one ‘true love’ – True Love 1, True Love 2, True Love 3… (and the list goes on!) 

It is a wonderful feeling to be in True Love 1. To receive and give that support, warmth, special care to special someone, the gifts, the SMSes, missed calls, night calls, dates, best kisses, make out sessions, fights, serious fights, temporary breakups, back together, stable for a while, break up again, final break up 1, final break up 2, full n final breakup, avoid calls, less night calls, sms pack deactivated, sad, hurt, tears, abuses, regrets, and The END of True Love 1…. Some couples manage to pull this relationship longer and enter the next level commonly known as 'marriage'. The others however, enter True Love 2 and that’s when they feel that this is actual true love and the previous one was just an 'Infatuation'. This cycle usually continues till we get hooked up with one Man/Woman we manage to tie a marital knot with. After marriage, who knows the hunt for True Love may continue till we become teeth-less, hairless, brainless, hormonal-less!

What amazes me is the eagerness and rush we all make to find that so called true love that we miss out on treasuring the blissful feeling that we experience or have experienced with our loved ones (I wonder how many even know the exact definition of it). The first love which is now labeled as 'crush' suddenly takes a back seat with a thought that he wasn't the right person and I made a mistake getting close and blah blah blah. Instead! What if that person is regarded as the right person for that particular time (After all, it did seem right and perfect then!). And the feeling that was felt then can still be labeled as 'love'. 

Its love every time you like a person or every time you feel that special bond and undefined happiness. Love has always been around and will always be around. Yet, we negate it when we feel it in people (crushes and infatuations) saying 'it wasn't love.'  
Step aside from this rush and treasure the times you felt loved or loved someone to an extent that it brought you happiness. Love isn't limited to a person nor is it found only in people. The more you continue to keep yourself open to receive love around, the more you may understand why this feeling cannot be labeled, defined or limited. Love is within you, around you and dwells in every minute creation in this Universe. As rightly said by my love guru Rumi, 
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” 

Cherish the experience more than the person and you will never fall out of love even if the person is gone miles away from you:-)

PS: “Is love painful???” I shall be discussing in my next blogpost ;-)